My Brother Tom
About two years ago, I published a book titled, Growing Up Simple, and on the dedication page I wrote these words: For my brother Tom, who was there with me as we were growing up simple. The book was fiction based on fact; it was based on the stuff my brother Tom and I did as young boys living on a farm. Our parents rented the farmhouse but had nothing to do with the farm itself. But Tom and I ran around all over that property and did some things which got us into our share of trouble. But let’s go back a little in time before this and to my earliest memory of me and Tom and our antics.
We were living in a house in a place called Elders
Ridge. There was a bathroom off of the living room and Tom was about two or
three and I was maybe four or five. We were playing around just inside the door
of that bathroom and Tom fell backwards onto the floor and against the
baseboard. There was a nail which had backed out enough that when Tom fell
against it, he was scratched on his behind. Well, he started to cry and my dad
came in to see what the problem was. Tom told him I had pushed him and he fell.
Well, at my young age, I was shocked; how could he tell such a lie and blame me
for his clumsiness? Needless to say, when it was all over, I got the spanking
and we both had a hurting backsides. And, I never forgot that and always
mentioned it to Tom when this kind of stuff came up in our conversation. In a
kidding way of course.
But I got even with Tom for that one. In Elders Ridge,
he and I were up early one morning and goofing around in our bedroom like all
little angels do. I told Tom we should go out onto the roof which was right
outside our bedroom window. He agreed and out the window he went in his whitey
tighty underwear. Well, as soon as he was out there, I closed and locked the
window and started to laugh at him. Then, the trick backfired and he broke the
window to get back in. Well, my dad had been working a graveyard shift and hadn’t
been in bed that long. He heard that glass break and came into our room to see
what we were doing and you can guess what happened after that. Tom always
claimed he locked me out on the roof but it was him out on the roof. Either
way, we have always laughed about that crazy event.
When we lived on the farm, we had a dog that had
puppies. Tom and I thought it would be a good idea to take the puppies with us
into the hay loft inside the barn and play with them. The only problem with
this was when we left the barn that day, we left the puppies in the hay loft.
When our dad came home from work and couldn’t find the puppies, he knew right
where to start his investigation. Yes, it started with me and Tom. We confessed
to our blunder and thought for sure we were going to get some corporal
punishment for this stunt but dad grabbed a flashlight and told us to follow
him to the barn and show him where we had them. The puppies were rescued and we
received a stern warning that the puppies were off limits.
During the summer months Tom and I would be out behind
the house playing with toy cars and trucks. We had our own little empire with
roads and towns and big imaginations. We did, on occasion, wonder off and make
our way to other parts of the farm. One evening, Tom and I took a walk up the
tractor trail which led to an old apple orchard. Coming back, we ate some red
berries. When we got home, our mother asked where we were and we told her. The
mistake we made was telling her about the red berries we ate. She immediately
mixed up some water and Epson Salts and demanded we drink it. (It was to induce
vomiting)
Tom and I were not in agreement with this and refused
to drink it. Of course, we were not going to win this battle. I had never heard
of the stuff but I still didn’t want to drink it. Our mother explained to us we
can’t just eat any kind of berry we see since some of them are poisonous. To
this day, I can’t remember if we ever did drink the stuff but just the thought
of it was bad enough and we learned our lesson about eating unknown berries.
Then there was the day Tom told mom he had found a
dead cow. The man we rented the house from had a brother who lived about a
quarter of a mile down the road from us and he farmed the property. Our mom was
concerned that it was one of his cows Tom had found. So, she told him to take us to the dead cow. He led us all over that farm and we never did find a dead
cow. Finally, our mom told him he was making the whole thing up. But recently
when I mentioned this story to him, he insisted he had seen what he thought at
the time was a dead cow but was probably a deer or some other type of animal.
Tom and I were up early one morning and decided we
were going to try smoking a cigarette. We took a cigarette out of our older
brother’s pack and headed down behind the old chicken coop. We lit it and took
a couple of drags off of it and the next thing we knew, everything was spinning
and we felt like we were going to throw up. That was a bad idea. On another
morning we went outside to mess around and Tom didn’t have shoes on. He stepped
on a piece of glass and cut his foot. There was a lot of blood and I told him
to get on my back so I could take him inside for our mom to look at. She and my
dad had worked a graveyard shift the night before and were in bed sleeping. I
opened the door to their bedroom and rushed in. Our mom woke up and wanted to
know what was going on. I told her Tom had cut his foot. She looked at it and
told him to get in the bathroom where she cleaned it up and then took him to
get it stitched up. Oh, the joy of having two young boys.
But that wasn’t the topper. One day when Tom was about
six or seven, I chased him up a tree (we were just goofing around) and he went
out onto a limb which would not support him. The limb snapped and he came
crashing to the ground with his left hand bent under his body and breaking his
wrist. Fortunately, our mom was off and she rushed him to the doctor, Doc
Hannah, in Homer City. He set the wrist but his young bones were still growing
and he had problems with that wrist. When he was about twelve, we were living
in Blairsville PA and our mom took him to Children’s Hospital in Pittsburgh and
the doctor rebroke it, shaved the deformed bone and reset it. Tom had a cast on his arm from his shoulder to
his wrist. I remember playing a pickup game of football with some other kids in
the neighborhood and there was Tom with that big cast on playing football.
Well, mom didn’t really like that and he received strict orders not to do it
again. I think he had that cast for about six weeks and then another from his
elbow to his wrist for another six weeks. And I deserved all the credit for it
because I chased him up that tree.
When I was fifteen and Tom was thirteen, we lost our
dad in a car accident. Two years later, we lost our mother to colon cancer. Tom
was fifteen and I was seventeen. Our Uncle Jack had taken care of everything
for my mother when she knew she was dying. Following the funeral, we at Uncle
Jack’s home in Indiana PA and my oldest brother, Link, was telling me what my
options were. I was seventeen and would be eighteen in six months.
I could go and live with him in East Rochester NY and
work on the railroad or stay in Indiana with my oldest sister and enlist in the
military when I turned eighteen. I opted for the military simply because I didn’t
want to go work on the railroad. As we were discussing all this, someone asked
where Tom was. We found him outside sitting on the curb crying. He said, “Where
am I going to go now? I don’t have a home.” That was heartbreaking to see. But
Link told him he did have a home and it was with him. Link and his wife Louise
took Tom in and he became a part of their family. Their two sons, Ken and Jim,
looked at Tom like a big brother and to this day, they will tell anyone who
asks that Tom was more of a big brother to them than an uncle.
Tom was a wrestler in high school and a very good one
at that. That influence carried over to Ken and Jim. It was through Tom’s
wrestling that I met my wife, Jeanne. It was following one of his matches in
the sectional tournament if I remember correctly. Regardless of when and where,
it was me watching him that brought us together.
I had enlisted in the Marines and when I returned from
Vietnam and was released from the Corps, I never encouraged Tom to enter the
military. The type of draft at that time was some kind of lottery and after Tom
graduated from school, he received a draft notice telling him his number, draft
number, could come up or something like that. Well, Tom wanted to make his own
decision concerning which branch of the military he would enter so he started
to talk to an Air Force recruiter. I never attempted to influence him
concerning this decision until, I realized the Air Force guy was giving him the
round around. It was then that I told him to stop messing around with this Air
Force guy and go see a Marine recruiter. I told him something like, “If you are
going to go to the military, go with the best and enlist in the Marine Corps.”
He did and he always loved the Marines. He just didn’t like being a military
policeman.
The two year enlistment option was still available
when he enlisted (I took this same option because it was only two years). I
always called this the body snatcher enlistment option because it was used to
attract young men simply to fill the depleting ranks in Vietnam. But by 1972
when Tom enlisted, all the Marine ground troops were out of Vietnam. Tom told
me when he was assigned his MOS (military occupational specialty) he was going
to be a cook. He didn’t want to be a cook. Who enlists in the best fighting
force this country has to be a cook?! So, he was told he could talk to a career
counselor and get it changed. That’s when they offered him the MOS of a
military policeman. But they didn’t exactly explain it in those terms. They
glorified it and told him he would be working for the Provost Marshal
counseling troubled Marines. To Tom, that sounded like a good job, so he took
it. He was told to sign a form, which he did and the career counselor told him
thanks and he had just added a third year to his enlistment. But it didn’t
matter to Tom and he made the best of it and did his three years and departed
from the Marines. But he had never regretted being a Marine and he loved the
Corps. He always wore Marine Corps hats and shirts and loved talking to other
former Marines.
When we talked on the phone or in person, the topic of
our time in the Marines always came up and the stories never got old. When Tom
came home on leave from boot camp, we picked him up in Harrisburg and for the
entire two hour ride home, he and I swapped stories about our experiences at
Parris Island and laughed all the way home. A few years ago, I had purchased a
Marine Corps T-shirt but it was too small. Instead of taking it back, I decided
to make a shadow box with the shirt inside of it and give it to him. He had
quite a bit of Marine stuff and I was just happy to add to his collection.
I could write a book on the stuff Tom and I did
together in his lifetime and maybe I will someday. But I simply wanted to share
a few things about him in this writing. I never expected he would pass on
before I did. I always knew I could pick up the phone and we could talk for
probably two hours about our memories of our childhood or the Marines or our
jobs. I can’t do that anymore and I am going to really miss him. But there is a
joy in knowing he knew Jesus as his Lord and savior and is right now in heaven
with Jesus. As boys and while growing up and as brothers, we were always kind
of competitive. Well, Tom has finished his race (Phil 3:14) and has won his prize.
He has had the final victory before me and has beat me to the finish line. He
wins but I will someday finish my race and be there with him and Jesus.
Tom never had the easiest life while here in this world, but he never complained. He could be just as happy with three dollars in
his pocket as with three million. He was a kind and patient man; he was
generous and loving and willing to help where he could. It is my selfish desire
that he was still here with us but Jesus gets to make that decision and we
cannot argue that. He was my little brother and I will really miss him.
-Bill Petite